LOVE IS NOT ABOUT SEX!

“Love is a cheap word. Anyone can say it, and few truly know what it means.” ~ Julianna Scott

Love is not about Sex, going on fancy dates, or showing off. It's about being with a person who makes you happy in a way nobody else can.

Some people think love is just talking kind, warm and cute words to each other, love is just telling “I love you”, is just being together and having fun. But reality is a bit different and love is hard. So what the true love meant to be? It's caring of someone you love, being with him when he needs your help, doing everything to protect and look after him.

To be in love means being patient but to be patient you must trust him first.

Stop trying to know what love means, just live it and experience it. Whether if it is the good or the bad, because trying to know what it is from someone else's meaning, will not have the same meaning to you.

Sex is not love! Our culture has taught us that sex and love are one in the same. This is a lie. Sex is a beautiful God-given activity that is wonderful when practiced within the boundaries of a Biblical marriage. Sex is the completion of the binding of two people within Biblical marriage; it is a God-given gift.

Love is best seen as devotion and action, not an emotion. Love is not exclusively based on how we feel. Certainly our emotions are involved, but they cannot be our only criteria for love. True devotion will always lead to action—true love.

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” —I Corinthians 13:4-8a (NIV)

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5 WAYS TO PREVENT A BREAKUP!

A breakup is painful and it hurts even more when you had hoped the relationship would last forever. Are there certain things we can do to prevent a breakup and ensure our relationships and marriages last? There are always warning signs before a breakup but most of us either ignore them or just fail to see them.

So how do we prevent a breakup? Correcting the warning signs is what you should do if you want to prevent a breakup in your relationship.

Below are 5 ways to prevent a breakup

1. BRING BACK THE PASSION

One of the reasons many relationships end is due to lack of passion in the relationship. It’s so easy for people who have been in a relationship for years to lose the passion in the relationship. To prevent the passion in your relationship from fading off, it’s important you and your partner do activities together the both of you love and enjoy. Create time each week to have good fun with your partner.

2. MAKE YOUR PARTNER YOUR PRIORITY

Emotional disconnect in relationships is another reason many relationships crash. When every other thing becomes more important than your partner, you create an emotional disconnect in your relationship and this could lead to a breakup. Make your partner your priority and also try to have good conversations regularly with your partner because this helps bring you closer to your partner and prevent an emotional disconnect.

3. AVOID UNNECESSARY CONFLICTS

Some conflicts in our relationships are unnecessary and could be avoided. If you have any issues with your partner, try discussing it with your partner instead of letting it boil and get out of control. When you are angry about something your partner did, you should talk about it with your partner when you are calmer and in control of yourself. If you have the discussion when you are calmer, you avoid having an outburst as you would be in control of yourself.

4. AVOID UNSPOKEN EXPECTATIONS

Unspoken expectations could also lead to a breakup so it’s important you avoid this in your relationship. It’s important every expectation in your relationship is agreed and not assumed. Avoid assuming things and try to discuss things with your partner instead. Don’t just assume your partner should meet certain expectations in your relationship.

5. FOCUS MORE ON YOUR CHILD AND IGNORE YOUR PARTNER

This is more common among women in so many marriages. The moment a child is born, she neglects her husband and gives her child all the attention. Doing this would cause problems in your marriage that could lead to a breakup. Your kids shouldn’t come before your partner. You should understand that if you have a solid relationship with your spouse, it would transmit to your kids too.

While these points do not give a 100 per cent guarantee, they would go a long way in helping you avoid a breakup in your relationship.

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YOU KNOW SOMEONE REALLY CARES ABOUT YOU!

Someone who cares will ask you how your day is. They want to know what you’re doing; they want to know if something significant has happened in your life. You don’t have to talk to them all the time, but when you do see them, they will want to know how you are. Not out of some sort of obligation, but because they genuinely want to know.

Someone who cares will tell you things. They’ll tell you how ridiculous that parking ticket was; they’ll tell you a joke they found hilarious. Some people share more than others, but someone who cares will tell you things that matter to them, no matter how small that thing is.

Someone who cares will listen. Now, there are times when they won’t listen well. We all do that sometimes: we’re distracted, or so excited we talk over each other. But a person who cares will listen to you regularly, because your opinions matter to them. The things you say make some sort of impact on them – your opinions make them think, or make them laugh. But in their way, whatever that way is, they will listen.

Someone who cares wants to see you. They like spending time with you. It’s not hard to read the pleasure on their face in your company. Someone who doesn’t care is ambivalent, or pays attention only when it suits their selfish purposes.

A person who cares about you will take time for you. Even if it’s just a few times a year – that friend from your hometown, the one separated from you by an entire 2000 miles. When you’re home, they will want to see you. They’ll chat with you online, or maybe they’ll call you. Sometimes weeks or months might pass, but when it counts, if in your darkest hour you need them, they will respond, and will do so gladly.

Someone who cares will not make you feel bad for taking up said time. Although they might be busy, so are you. They will want to spend the time on you because that is just what you do when you care for someone. They won’t make you feel bad for asking to hang out, feel guilty that your time is less valuable than whatever else they are doing.

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9 REASONS WHY SOME PEOPLE NEVER SUCCEED!

We all want to be successful but not everyone achieves success. Some people never succeed due to certain reasons which I would love to talk about.

Below are 9 reasons why some people never succeed

1. THEY DON’T VALUE TIME

Anyone who doesn’t value time won’t succeed, it’s that simple. Successful people manage their time well and that’s the reason why they are successful.

2. THEY LIMIT THEMSELVES

Some people limit themselves and it’s so wrong because you can’t be successful if you limit yourself. When you make statements like “I don’t think I have what it takes to own a successful business”, you limit yourself and end up not having one.

3. THEY ALWAYS PROCRASTINATE

No one can be successful if they are good at procrastinating. Successful don’t push till tomorrow what they have to do today.

4. THEY LOVE MAKING EXCUSES

Making excuses all the time is one of the reasons why some people never succeed. You can’t succeed if you always find reasons and logic as to why you can’t do it or shouldn’t do it.

5. THEY LOVE MEDIOCRITY

Anyone who loves mediocrity can’t succeed. Unsuccessful people don’t seek for excellence as they are happy with whatever outcome they get.

6. THEY THINK BEING BUSY MEANS BEING PRODUCTIVE

You can be a very busy person but a less productive person. Some people are unsuccessful because they are always busy doing nothing. Unsuccessful people are part of everything but nothing which they do is in alignment to their values and goals.

7. THEY DON’T TAKE ACTION

Some people are unsuccessful because it’s always talk, talk and more talk with them but less action.  They have the biggest dream but do nothing to achieve this dream.

8. THEY CAN’T FACE CHALLENGES

Some people are unsuccessful because they always crumble when they face challenges. You can’t achieve your goal if you are not ready to face challenges.

9. THEY ARE NEITHER HERE NOR THERE

Some people are unsuccessful because they are neither here nor there. They have no opinion about anything and also can’t make decisions.


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WHEN A MAN LOVES A WOMAN!

When a man loves a woman, she becomes his weakness,When a woman truly loves a man,he becomes her strength,This is called the exchange of Power.

“A man's face is his autobiography. A woman's face is her work of fiction.”~ Oscar Wilde

“Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably they are both disappointed.” ~ Albert Einstein

When a man loves a woman, he is crazy in love with her and he can do anything for his woman. A man who is stronger than woman cares and protects her from any threat.

"If he misses you, he'll call just to hear your voice.If he wants you,he'll say it.And if he cares,he'll show it.If he has a thought about you,it will come out of his mouth.If you are on his mind non stop,he will do anything he can just to see you.If he truly likes you,he won't let anything get in the way and fight back just to keep you in his arms.If not,he's not worth your time because you're obviously not worth his"

"A real man never stops trying to show a woman how much she means to him, even after he's got her." ~ Unknown

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7 WAYS TO EFFECTIVELY MANAGE YOUR TIME!

A successful person manages his time well and an unsuccessful person would most likely be late for an appointment, never get the task done on time or never manage time properly.

Time really is money and it takes discipline to be a good time manager. A lot of people have issues managing time properly, and you can hardly reach your goals if time is always against you.

Below are tips that would help you manage your time properly.

1. WAKE UP EARLIER 

Of course, this is definitely a huge step that would help you meet up with appointments earlier. A lot of people are late for work and appointments because they wake up late. If you feel you never meet up to time for any appointment then the first and foremost step for you is to wake up earlier than normal.

2. HAVE A PLAN 

Having a plan for your daily activities would help you get organised. Make a plan of everything you need to do that day, prioritise them and set a time frame for each task. Discipline yourself to try to meet up those tasks within the specified time frame.

Having a plan would make you more coordinated and organised and that’s an important step to managing your time effectively.

3. ELIMINATE DISTRACTIONS 

Your mobile phone is one of your biggest distractions you have to let go off if you’re going to keep to time. Everything that would hinder you from completing your task on time is also a distraction that shouldn’t be allowed at that time. Unnecessary chattering also accounts for one of the major distractions employees are faced with.

4. BE TIME CONSCIOUS 

Sometimes people feel there is time on their side and such people always end up being cheated by time, time and time again. Be focused on the task at hand and be time conscious as being time conscious would help you become determined to meet up.

5. DELEGATE 

If you can delegate some simple tasks to others then try delegating those tasks so you can focus on more important tasks. Delegating tasks would provide you with ample time. However, people make the mistake of losing focus after delegating tasks because they feel time is on their side.

6. GROUP SIMILAR TASKS TOGETHER 

Performing related tasks together would help you complete those tasks effectively and on time. When writing your to-do list for the day, this should be one of your goals.

7. STOP PROCRASTINATING 

Procrastination is a big time killer that most people indulge in. Procrastination would only leave you with a huge pile of work and that would waste your time the more. The best time to do the job is now.

These tips are highly effective tips that would make you be a better time manager. Remember, to be a more successful person starts with your ability to be a better time manager.

Loyan!

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