NEW VIDEO: KALA JEREMIAH FT MIRIAM CHIRWA - WANANDOTO!

Msanii mkali wa Hip hop hapa bongo Kala Jeremiah kwa mara nyingine tena kwenye TV zetu, katuletea brand new video ya wimbo wake mpya unaoitwa "Wanandoto" aliomshirikisha mtoto Miriam Chirwa, ukishaitazama hapa chini usiache kutoa neno lako ili Kala na Miriam wakipita hapa baadae waone watu wao wanasemaje kwenye comments. 

(The hiphop artist from Tanzania  Kala Jeremiah once again on our TVs, he brought us a brand new video of his single called "Wanandoto" meaning "They have dreams" which he featured a disabled child singer also from Tanzania called Miriam Chirwa. After you watch the video do not hesitate to drop your comments below.)

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PAY ATTENTION TO HER!

When you are in a relationship with a woman, you should always look at what she does and not so much what she says. Since women are emotional beings, their level of interest and comfort with a man is constantly in flux.
A guy who does a good job of always making his woman feel comfortable and safe is going to have a pretty happy woman. 
A guy who does not understand women very well or who does not understand how to read her true level of interest in him is going to feel uncomfortable and unsure of himself in the relationship.

If you are unsure of yourself and where you stand with your woman, she is going to feel this also. This will cause her to feel unsafe and unsure about her feelings towards you and your potential future together. If you are successful at making a woman feel comfortable and safe, there will not be a lot of times where she is doubtful of your future together.

The more comfortable a woman feels with you, the less she will test you. The more she senses weakness and doubts your masculine core, the more she will test you. When a woman senses weakness in her man, she will back away and test.

It is absolutely essential that you understand how to effectively communicate with women if you want to feel safe, secure and loved in your relationships.

When a woman is “tripping” she cares. When a woman is “mad” she believed in you and you let her down. When she’s “asking questions” she is trying to gain clarity. When she’s quiet and letting things “slide” she is giving up. And when she’s not doing any of the above just know you lost a good woman. A pretty face gets old. A nice body will change. But a good woman will always b a good woman. A GOOD WOMAN can only take so much. Don't underestimate her desire be happy even if it means moving on without you. 

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18 SIGNS YOU'RE WITH THE WOMAN YOU SHOULD MARRY!

1. She cares how your friends are doing. She knows all your friends by name and is genuinely invested in whether or not your roommate Kate gets together with that guy she likes because they would be so cute together and she wants her to be happy.

2. You can go on trips together and not fight constantly. If you can survive being in a nightmare spa resort full of screaming children, no clean towels, and weak drinks with old pineapple on the rim without fighting constantly, you have something pretty amazing.

3. You still catch her checking you out. For no reason, really. She just thinks you are the hottest human always and is happy to let you know.

4. You share the same values. You both want the same type of relationship, you know where you both stand on having children, and your goals for the future are the same. If you want to work until you're 90, so does she. If you want to retire early and eat only pudding for the rest of your life, she's cool with that.

5. She loves bragging about you. To her friends, coworkers, everyone. Because she's proud of you and thinks you are the coolest person she's ever met. Her friends and roommates and coworkers know every little thing about you before you even meet them. You're basically like a boy band she's obsessed with that she also gets to date.

6. You hear your friends complain about their significant others and you can't really relate. Just keep it to yourself that you and your girlfriend have fun staring at blank walls and she's incredibly supportive and thoughtful and compassionate. Not the time to share that info.

7. She's your biggest supporter. She believes you can do things even you're not sure you can do because she has the utmost faith and confidence in you even at your lowest moments because she believes you are magic.

8. You feel comfortable planning things way, way in the future. You can buy concert tickets or book a vacation in advance without worrying if she's going to break up with you or you're going to break up with her before then because you trust her completely and she's become such a part of you that your future together seems as certain as anything.

9. She makes sacrifices for you and you do the same for her. And she thinks nothing of it because she genuinely enjoys making sure you're happy and you feel the same way about her.

10. She doesn't try to change you. She knows every messed up, weirdo thing you do when you sleep and when you're awake and when you're tired and when you're cranky, and she's OK with all of it in a way that you weren't sure anyone ever would be. Because you have a lot of weirdo stuff.

11. Your friends are really, genuinely happy for you. After suffering through countless drink dates and morning-after breakfasts with your horrible exes, your friends are so relieved you're actually with someone who is as cool as you are because you're truly right for each other, which is something they'd wanted for you for a long time now. It's like seeing your really tall friend find workable pants, but instead of pants, it's a person.

12. You can be completely honest with her about anything. No matter how anxious or worried or nervous or scared you're feeling, you know you can tell her anything at all and she won't judge you. Sexual fantasies, awkward illnesses, a fight you had with your parents; anything.

13. She's the first person you want to talk to when something cool/funny/weird happens. You used to text your best friend all of this stuff but your best friend isn't even mad about that because she's so happy you've found someone you're so close and connected with.

14. She indulges your guilty pleasures. She knows you love sitting in track pants and eating an entire Funfetti cake, and not only totally accepts that, but sometimes she brings one home and lets you tear that shit up.

15. You want to protect her. Even though she totally doesn't need protecting. It's just an impulse because you love her so goddamn much.

16. She fights fairly. She doesn't get excessively angry or mean-spirited, and she doesn't bring up old issues or low blows just to hurt you. She might be mad, but she wants to work it out with you, so you talk about it like adults who love each other.

17. She has her own life outside of your relationship. She knows you two are going to function best when she does her own thing and you do your own thing and then you both come together and forget about the rest of the world existing.

18. You tell her you miss her when she's gone, and you really mean it. Like you say you wish she were there because you actually wish she was there. All the time. Maybe in, like, a live-in situation. A live-in situation with wedding rings. And all of our friends there. And then someone gives us fancy kitchenware. Maybe like that.

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CONTINUOUS EFFORTS TO SUCCESS!

A stone is broken by the last stroke of hammer. This doesn't mean that the first stroke is useless. Success is a result of continuous efforts.

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12 HABITS OF UNHAPPY PEOPLE AND HOW TO AVOID HAVING THEM!

Happiness is something that we all strive to attain. As human beings we can accept the fact that: (a) life is short, and (b) unhappiness makes our lives difficult. As is common knowledge, our habits have a big impact on the quality of life that we live; specifically, these habits directly impact our happiness (or lack thereof). To make a clear distinction, there is a strong difference between clinical depression and chronic unhappiness. Depression is a chemical imbalance in the brain, while unhappiness is a disposition that is often acquired through how we choose to live our lives. Similar to depression, however, unhappiness can be diagnosed and treated.

Here are 12 habits that can cause unhappiness, all of which can be avoided.

1. Chronic Complaining

Happy and successful people do not complain much. On the other side, it seems that chronic complainers always have something negative to say… even when those around them are happy! The bottom line: we all have different circumstances that we are given in this lifetime, but in the end these circumstances are ours – fair or unfair, wanted or unwanted. Instead, seek solutions to problems instead of complaining, which leads to nowhere.

2. Being critical – of self and others

How we talk to ourselves shapes our self-image, for better or worse. Self-worth is an essential component to our happiness, and feeling good about ourselves is a right that we all have. Realize when mistakes are made, accept them, and move on…don’t engage in negative self-talk. Further, respect the inherent differences of others and recognize their right to live happily and without undue criticism.

3. Living beyond means

We live in a materialistic society, one where we are constantly bombarded with advertisements for the latest car, gadget, or credit card; all promising an easier, more fulfilling existence. Don’t believe it for a second. While purchasing a new product may provide a needed emotional boost, it doesn’t last. Ever heard the term “buyer’s remorse”? It exists for a reason. Instead, seek out something to do that doesn’t involve whipping out a piece of plastic – exercise, reading, sightseeing, etc. – anything brings satisfaction without the debt.

4. Negative addictions

Most things are good in moderation – food, a drink or two, entertainment… it’s when these things take center stage in our lives that it becomes a problem. Unfortunately, many good people have met their end through addictive habits, especially through dependence on alcohol and drugs. A great preventative measure and remedy to these addictions? Finding and living our passions to the greatest extent possible (see #8).

5. Regretting the past

Regret is not only useless, it can be extremely harmful. Research continues to show that repetitive, negative thoughts about decisions made in the past in often a precursor to chronic stress and depression. According to Psychology Today, there are four ways to cope with regret: (1) learn from mistakes but don’t dwell, (2) if nothing can be changed about the situation to let it go, (3) make sure too much blame is not being undertaken, and(4) reframing the situation more positively.

6. Worrying about the future

We only have so much say in what our future holds. This is not meant to disempower (quite the opposite); rather it is stating simple truth. What wecan do is live in the present while fully exercising our God-given abilities and talents, enabling and empowering us to live a happier existence. There’s that phrase again: living in the present. Face difficulties as they arise and let them go. Enjoy the beautiful things in life and experience them fully…be present.

7. Being driven by fear

Yes, fear can be an enabler to unhappiness. To fully understand this, we have to again go back to being present. Quite simply, we can’t allow fear of the unknown (and/or the unavoidable) to cripple our quality of life. Fear is a negative thought process that is often on auto pilot. Remember: we are not our negative thoughts. We are not fear, worry, anxiety, or any other negative thought process.

8. Delaying goals and dreams

It’s relatively easy and effortless to get caught up in the routine of life: working, eating, sleeping, maybe even a day or two of doing something fun or relaxing. But here’s the thing: by not directing our talents and passions toward a positive and tangible goal, we potentially discard something great before its realization. The hardest part of living out our goals and dreams istaking the first step. After building a game plan taking that first step, only then can we see the possibilities.

9. Gossiping

Nothing exudes unhappiness and insecurity more than negative small talk about someone else. After all, why would a happy, confident person engage in something that is of no benefit? They wouldn’t. Gossip is something to be left to the kids at recess, not to adults attempting to make their lives (and others!) better.

10. Holding grudges

Similar to other negative emotions, animosity is a needless weight on our backs. We are all witness to the negative behaviors of other people and can become (sometimes justifiably) angered as a result. But remember: this isn’t about their ignorant behavior; it’s about your happiness. Either forgive, forget, or ignore… and move on with your life.

11. Eating poorly
Ingesting nutritionally-bankrupt food is all about immediate gratification. It’s certainly not about feeling good long-term, as eating poorly can result in bad health, weight gain, depression, lack of energy and decreased productivity; while having a well-balanced diet results in an entirely opposite effect – more energy, a healthy weight, mental alertness, and increased productivity. Eat right, look great, and feel great.

12. Expanding our problems

When we experience unhappiness and discontent, our first reaction is almost entirely emotional. In other words, we blow things completely out of proportion. After all, we still have that darned “lizard brain” (amygdala) – the epicenter of negative emotions. Instead, just take a step back, look at the problem objectively (with minimal emotion), and focus on a solution!

Once aware of these habits, you can make sure to keep them at bay by following the advice mentioned above.

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